Self Images

I am big on being who you are and happy with who you are and what you look like. I seen an article on the HUMAN BARBIE. She is from Ukraine. Her name is Valeria Lukyanova. She does look like Barbie.

No this is not a doll. This is her. She had all this done to perfect her body. And this is why people now a days suffer from eating disorders, self esteem issues, drug addiction, different men/women. I'm not saying that this is the only reason why people struggle with these problems, but this is a huge reason. Women and men perfecting their bodies because of how society wants us to look. Music videos, actors/actresses, and the way we are raised and taught is how we pick our mates. People say I CHOOSE MY OWN MATE. If your father was dating a certain type of woman, you would follow in that path. Young girls want someone like their fathers. Young men want someone like their mothers. It's all in how your parents raise you. It's all in how you allow society to control that much of you.

It's not right that we, as people, believe that unless we are perfect, no one will love us. It's not true. To find love, you must love yourself. And I honestly hope that our society will change the perception on this. I hope you as a parent, or when you become one, that you will teach your child, societies views are not the ones to follow. And that you teach your child that the values he/she should follow and respect are the ones that include morality, honesty, and love no matter the size, look, color, supermodel or not, athletic type or not. Teach your children that society has a twisted way of looking at images, and how people should be.

TEMPTATION!!!

I am trying to limit my snacking. I will snack and not eat. I have so far, not succeded. I bought a pecan pie for Thanksgiving. So yummy. I love pumpkin pie more, but pecan pie is so good.
So the other night, I go into my kitchen to find a yummy snack. I am looking and nothing. I open my freezer. And a light comes on, I think I hear angels singing and the light is shining on the pie. Ok the light comes on when I open the door, and the pie is right under the light. But with my snack hunger intensifying, this is what I saw. I tell myself NO. It's for Thanksgiving. I walk away. I say to myself, I DON'T NEED A SNACK. I AM A CHAMPION! I am sitting on the couch watching a movie. I am getting hungrier. The pie is in my head. EAT ME. JUST ONE PIECE. IM TOO BIG FOR 3 KIDS AND YOU. IT'S OK. He has a point. I go in get a plate and cut me a slice. I enjoy this piece of pie. I am in heaven.

I think I must of blacked out because half the pie is missing and there is no note. MY PIE HAS GONE MISSING. I am so sad. I now must either try and find another one, or make one. I think I will wait until it is about 2-3 days out from Thanksgiving. No pie is safe in this house. *sigh*


What are your temptations?!

Homosexuality

There is a picture going around that some look at it as controversial. Its a gay marine coming home to his loved one and kissing him. This marine was deployed. Now, before you throw in religion and ITS A SIN. Let me tell you, yes the bible does say homosexuality is wrong, but it also states, judging, hating and all that is also wrong. So, either the bible is hypocritical(it has been rewritten so many times who is to say the version we have is the correct one?), or people are picking and choosing what verses to accept. I believe in God, heaven, hell all that. I am not practicing religion, just common sense and good judgement. As should everyone. That's basically what the bible is saying. And if you commit a sin, just don't repeat the sin. Learn your lesson from your bad judgements. That's what the bible is saying.

So, if a homosexual has deen to war and fought for his country, why cannot he be happy with a man? All this picture shows is a man and a man kissing. My children have practically seen couples dry humping in public and that is better because its a man and a woman? Really? I am about to do a side by side photo of this and I want you to tell me what's so wrong with it. Do not point out the man on man kissing. See if you can find any other flaws...

 

So can you tell me what is wrong with this picture? On the left, did you know the couple did not even know each other. He just walked up and kissed her. The couple on the right have known each other for 4 years. Honestly, I say the picture on the right is more in the wrong because the man did not know this woman. He just walked up and kissed her. Hmm... makes you wonder right?

 

The comments they are recieving because of this photo is against the bible. So, therefore, people are picking and choosing what verses to live by and not only that, they are also tweaking them to their preference. But yet this very incident is wrong and unjust?

 

I am for people's rights. You want to be gay, BE GAY! Love your loved one and carry on. As long as you do not dry hump in public. Many also find it so hot and being turned on by lesbian kissing and making out and all that, but yet one loving kiss between a couple is gross and disgusting?

 

What are your views?

*~* Friends *~*

I have a friend whom I have never met. She owns a blog as well(I have her down at the bottom, well her page lol) and she will know who I am talking about. She has a problem. I don't want to share details, as its not me. But I wanted her to know, she is a beautiful person. Inside and out. We have known each other for quite a few years. I value her friendship so much! She is so smart, creative, opinionated, funny, and just a good person to have a talk with. She is busy with 3 kids(2 of which are in school) and just all around the mommy/wife things. Like most of us are. But the exceptional thing about her is, she is involved with the PTO. I refuse. My PTO is full of those Suzy Homemaker, Martha Stewart types. I love Suzy Homemaker. Martha Stewart scares me lmao. But she is awesome!

I wanted you to know this! Her blog is Mommy Chronicles! Check her out! She is an awesome person and her blog is great!

I love you and hope to meet you in real life soon and you are one awesome person!!

Do you guys have that one friend? Or even more?!

~*~Kids TV Shows~*~

I am taking another break lol. I need to, my back is doing some serious painful things right now. So as I sit here, thinking, trying to redefine the blog here, my kids are watching Dora the Explorer. I don't mind a little TV during the day. My TV is constantly on, but that doesn't mean they watch it all the time. I just like the sound of it. Anyways, I am thinking of all cartoons they watch and I'm thinking the writers/producers of these shows must be idiots. And let me explain:

Dora-Her parents let her run wild with animals, and go to strange places and be in danger and don't even care.

Max and Ruby-Abanoned by parents!! I don't ever remember reading about rabbits just leaving their young behind. I thought rabbits stuck with them???

Umizoomi-Teaches math, got it. But when a child needs to earn money to buy something, they jump in and help. What exactly is that teaching the child? That, yes helping is nice and good and you should always help, but also, when you want to earn money just ask for help and expect all proceeds go to you! Not split up the money even though they helped you.

Yo gabba gabba-Hey lets make a show about crazy colors, music, cartoons and creatures so when they kids get older it will make them think drugs are COOL! Ok, not exactly, but come on, this show makes it look like an acid trip.

Diego-Same thing as Dora.

This is just some of the shows my kids watch. We also watch Disney Junior and Little Einsteins is just like Dora and Diego. But I like a majority of the shows on Disney Junior.

I can almost guarantee tell what you're thinking. WELL HAVE THEM WATCH THAT AND NOT NICKJR. First, disney junior doesnt stay on that long(time zones suck) and the kids like nickjr. Its our job as parents to teach our kids right from wrong. Yes I get all this, this post was just a little joke.

Have some of your own?

:( Bullying :(

Bullying is a topic we all deal with and face. Whether you have kids or not. There is some type of bullying we have dealt with. I read an article which is here : Class Spitters. If you don't take the time to read I will just paraphrase for you. Its about how a boy (9 years old) was blowing raspberries. The teacher did not approve and scolded him. She then proceeded to tell the class to circle around him and take turns spitting on him. I actually had to deal with this last week. I seen 6 kids holding down 1 boy and was taking turns spitting on him. I yelled at them to stop, but who is to say I stopped them for the days to follow? Or weeks? And because it was off campus I had to involve the police and because they did not witness it, they can not do anything about it. So this little boy is feeling like its ok to bully other kids and so the trait is learned.

I believe bullying is a trait that is learned. And if you look up statistics it is more than 75% learned in the home of the child/ren. Whether the child is bullied, one parent is bullied by the other, or both parents bully each other. The child is learning this trait. And because of this one incident, this little boy is now left with feelings ranging from anger, upset, confusion, and lost. This is not acceptable. The police should of investigated it. But they did not want to take their time to come out. And the worst part about the police, there were 2 on crosswalk duty for the school at one location and 1 other police at the other crosswalk. How sad that 1 person could not come their spots to investigate what was going on.

I feel sorry my childrens generation as they get older. Sooner or later being grounded will be considered abuse. Im not saying spanking is always the answer, especially dealing with bullies. But another approach. And parents are now being too lazy to step up and talk with their children. Now, I know alot of kids won't talk to their parents. They come straight home and walk into their house and go straight to their rooms. Thats when the parent/s should walk upstairs and force a talk. If the child doesn't want to talk fine, they can listen. And before you say WELL I DON'T WANT TO FORCE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY CHILD/REN. Just think, this bully could be your child. And your child go grow up and be responsible for the death of another or theirselves. Think about this for a moment...

CHANGES

Hey it's me! I haven't been on for a while. I have had a lot going on. I will be updating, and changing and adding things. I am going to blog once a day about anything and everything. I hop you enjoy the changes and please just have fun!!

~*Love*~

I have a facebook. Who doesn't. lol. But a lot of my friends keep posting pictures of quotes, sayings, whatever. There is one quote going around that is not only stupid, but is really starting to get under my skin. This is the quote:
                                                CHEATING IS EASY. WHY NOT TRY
                                              SOMETHING CHALLENGING MORE
                                              CHALLENGING LIKE STAYING FAITHFUL.
I don't understand it. How is staying faithful a challenge? I was watching the movie ENOUGH with Jennifer Lopez. Her husband is a psycho cheating, abusive lunatic. Well in the first 45 minutes maybe less, he is caught cheating. And he says he is a man. And he has needs. And those needs being met will make the relationship better and easier on her(Jennifer). And of course all those cheaters. I LOVE HER/HIM but cheat non stop. Once yes can be a mistake. As, long as you admit it, work on getting past it, and don't repeat the mistake. But repeatedly is just wrong. How can you say you love someone and turn around some odd minutes/hours later and cheat and then repeat. It's a never ending cycle.

I love my husband. We have our differences. That's what makes us, us. If we were exactly alike, and agreed on everything all the time, there would be no fun. If that were the case, I should of married myself. But we argue. And I'm being truthful and some may say no way, but we hardly argue. In the 6 years we have been married we have had a few bad arguements, but I can count on 1 hand how many times that was. We argue, we discuss to work through our problems, and then we try to make the other laugh. One of us will. We know to not ignore it or sweep it under the rug. I love him. He loves me.

So that gets onto love. What is love for you? What made you fall in love with your spouse? What is it that they do that still makes the butterflies fly, the tingles tingles, the knees get weak? For me, its when, we are out to dinner or even sitting in the truck and a beautiful woman will walk past(yes I notice lol) and his eyes will either be on me or straight ahead and he doesn't even realize her. He truly doesn't. Occasionally he glances, he is a man, but he doesn't gawk(except Kate Beckinsale lol). The way he sees me. I used to get so mad at him for not noticing me without make up on. I worked hard to dress nice, notice me dangit lol. But I realized, he still sees me beautiful without makeup. How he can still find me attractive wearing PJs. If I miss his message online(deployment) he will say JUST WANTED TO SAY I LOVE YOU AND I MISS YOU.

The honest truth thing that got me was, he kisses my nose. He gives me eskimo kisses. I love that. He will kiss my forehead, my nose. He gives eskimo kisses. ESKIMO KISSES. What guy does that? The way, even though he laughs, he holds me to protect me from my fears. I have a lot.

Thats my love. Thats what made me fall in love. That's what keeps me falling in love. He surprises me everyday with what he says and every year. I love him and always. So tell me your story!

Whine here!

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Pain

What is your pain tolerance? What does it take for you to throw in the towel and take medicine? I don't care what the medicine is, this post is about pain. I had my gallbladder removed. It was outpatient so not much damage per say. But it still hurts. I am having some bad reactions. Fluid backed up, a bad reaction to a suture, things like that. But nothing too serious. So anyways, my pain tolerance is pretty high. If I am reaching for medicine its pretty bad. I hate taking medicine, but if I need it I will take it.

I have dealt with kidney stones, twice, both times I was pregnant with my son. I have had gallstones(which lead to the removal of the gallbladder), and I have delivered 3 kids over 8 pounds. I had an epidural with mine, but I was also induced so I had to wait until the contractions and my dilation was to a certain number. Can't remember that number lol. So I have had a lot of practice dealing with pain lol.

I bring this topic up because I am having some pain, but also on mythbusters they did an episode (NO PAIN, NO GAIN) on what sex can handle pain longer, male or females. Of course it was just an ice bath so that didnt really prove anything, but giving birth can. I am just curious as to pain tolerance and what degree does it have to be for you to give in. Any thoughts?

Indisposed/Animals

I have been sick. I am still slightly recovering from surgery. I had laprascopic gallbladder removal. Even though it was minor, the recovery the first week is horrible! I am now able to move around comfortably, and do my regular housework and all that. I am back now and will continue on my posting.


My first post will be about animals. I have a cat. Rusty, we have had him for 2 years. He is an orange tabby. Fixed. He is a loner, but loves attention. He ran away 2 nights ago. Usually when he does(if he manages to get out) he hides in this drainage ditch by our house. Last night he made it back. He was scratching at our back door. Surprised me! My husband was happy he was back of course. Well last night as Im laying to try and fall asleep, he decided to meow and claw everything. (He wanted attention). So I pat my blanket and he jumps up. He is moving and purring, and just won't lay still. I push him down and pet him and he still manages to move. UGH! LAY DOWN CAT! Is all I'm thinking. QUIT MOVING. I know he is thinking YEA PET ME MORE I MOVE MORE. YEA GOT YOU AWAKE NOW!! Ugh. This cat was frustrating me. So I stopped petting him. That bit me in the hand, and my leg. Stupid cat. So I sit him down on the floor.

I finally drift off to sleep. Around 3 am(when the ghost come out to spook people, they are REAL PEOPLE! :P). So around that time, I head a loud bang and I start contemplating on waking my husband or not. I don't. I lay frozen in fear thinking if I don't move they won't find us. I finally decide to get up and check it out. I come downstairs ever so slowly and start thinking of the worst scenarios. I make it to my kitchen. I am so afraid to flip on the switch. But I do it with such a fast motion that you can't see my hand. I look around and see my cat, on my island, knocking things down. I yell at him and he slowly turns gives me this look, the STOP PETTING ME HUH look and slowly jumps off the counter. And I promise you, he swished his hips. Like he won. Stupid cat!!

How many of you have ever had problems with your animals?! I love my cat but he drives me insane! Share your stories with me!

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HouseWork

How many of us can truly say they LOVE housework? I'm pretty good about my housework. I clean it and it stays that way for a whole 9.5 seconds. I have clutter that I want to go through, but if I touch it without my husband knowing, I WILL THROW AWAY SOMETHING IMPORTANT. Direct quote from my husband. If any of you have had this problem, you understand.

My husband is deployed right now. I still clean, but not like I would if he was home. I fold clothes, but they stay in the basket, I do the dishes the next morning. I pick up the toys and dirty clothes the next day as well. I don't mop as much(even though I should.) But my house is still clean.

I heard this woman before. Well read, where she said she straightens up, but she puts a bowl of pinesol somewhere hidden so her husband thinks she did more than she really did. I tried do that. My 2 year old was lemony fresh, even after his bath.

My least favorite housework is the folding. I can start the washer and even switch them over with no problem! Its just the the folding. UGH the folding. And most of my clothes are hung up. Not hard, but it is. I rather just clean my house and keep the kids busy all day outside so it won't get messy again, but thats impossible. Even though my kids drive me insane with the begging and makes me feel like I am a prisoner because of the PLEASE PLEASE I WILL BE GOOD, they want to come in after 5 minutes of play time outside.

I always said I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL MY KIDS GET OLDER TO DO THE HOUSEWORK. Its a famous quote that has been around, but in all actuality, I don't want them to help. They might make it worse or turn all our whites pink or whatever color. You can teach separate the clothes, but doesn't mean they will listen.

I have found some interesting ways to get them to help clean, along with some I made up. I will make a blog under ~*~Crafty~*~ for these items. So keep an eye! In the meantime, what are your ways of cleaning? Worst chore? Do your kids help? How do you get them to help? I will check back for ideas!!

Child Training :)

I have 3 kids. A 5 year old, a 3 year old, and a 2 year old. The oldest 2 are girls and my youngest is a boy. My oldest is into the whole JUSTIN BEIBER fad. Its better than most singers nowadays. Wearing clothes that my 3 yr old can fit, the lyrics are about money, sex, drinking and partying. But she is in love with him. And I realized, this boy liking will only get worse with age. She is already into makeup, dresses, modeling. She is 5 going on 16. What happened to my little girl? I want her to stay little, no care in the world, not liking boys. She will be in kindergarten this coming up school year. She was already in kindergarten, but she isn't mentally ready for 1st grade. Socially, maybe, but she still has some learning. So I am wanting to make it where she won't struggle too bad in 1st grade.

My 3 year old is another story. She was born with a delay, but it's something that with extra help she can overcome it and she is. She is talking so much better. She is also very emotional. She can't even poop in the toilet without freaking out. So, potty training her to poop in the toilet is a challenge all in itself. She is shy, but once you get to know her, she is all over you. Wanting to play, wanting to cuddle. She is my lovable ladybug!

My son(2) is so different. He is a bully. He will want to fight, bite, pull hair, step on you, sit on you, anything that can cause pain. He is also very loving and cuddly. He is the sweetest I have met. His vocabulary is great!! He is now learning his shapes, and counting.

So my question, what are your fears of you child(ren) growing up? If your child was a biter, how did you break him? And the pooping in the toilet, any suggestions!?










 

PRIVACY

We as mothers want our privacy even more now that we have kids. We all love our kids and would do anything for them, but a little quiet privacy time is needed. What brought up this topic, is my friend made a post about how she can't pee without her kids being there. And I laughed because its like as soon as I shut the door here comes my little monsters knocking, opening, and shouting. I remember one time, my son just woke up from a nap and he is really clingy most of the time. I told him I would be back I had to go potty. He would not let go of my neck. So, because of this I was forced to take him to the bathroom with me. No, big deal. I sit him down and I sit on the potty. He starts flipping out. I can't calm him down!! The whole time I'm thinking OMG HURRY UP AND PEE SO I CAN GET HIM TO STOP!! Nothing was happening(as in I couldn't pee) So, I had to hold him while I sat on the toilet and he calmed down. That was so hard. I also remember another time when I went to a public bathroom and I was peeing and my 3 year old farted. She yells EW MOM YOU FART YOU STINK! And there was at least 5 people in the stalls and like 10 waiting. You best believe I sat in the stall until everyone left. It was a horrible disasterous moment for me. I thought I even heard some giggling. And its just not the bathroom either.

Imagine you are in the store, you walk down the candy isle to diapers or wipes or whatever, until, there it is. It is staring at you, BUY ME you hear it say. Its your favorite candy(almond joy for me). So you buy it. Thinking IM GOING TO ENJOY THIS!! You get home and here comes the kids full speed wanting a bite! Even though they have their own snacks, they want what mommy has. You sigh and tear off pieces for them. You are left with a measly crumb. I find myself huffing down my candy bar before I even pull up into my house. I want to enjoy a taste of freedom without sharing. Yes, I can be greedy!

As I sit here typing this, I am sitting in my husbands recliner. I have my 5 year old laying on the footrest, so I cant stretch my legs. I have my 3 year old sitting next to me, legs over mine, taking up more than half the space, and my 2 yr old fighting my 5 year old on space.

We all knew some things would change having a baby, if not all things, but privacy I WANT MY PRIVACY BACK! I want to take a nice hot bubble bath without kids coming in MOM HE HIT ME, MAMA THEY WONT SHARE, MOM and whatever jibberish comes fromy my 2 year old.

STATUS consideration

Ok so tonight I will be discussing something about facebook and statuses. I know a person who is having fertility problems. Now someone in her family made a status and it hurt her feelings and made me mad. The status said WTH WAS I THINKIN GETTING PREGNANT AGAIN? Now I know what most will say THAT IS HER FACEBOOK SHE CAN POST WHAT SHE WANTS. True, but there is a little something called respect and consideration of others. I stood up for this person and I got jumped on for sticking up for this person. So, what is everyone's opinion on this?


Should a person be considerate of family and/or friends when making facebook statuses? I believe they should. Your status can be taken many different ways.


And while on the subject, when one person makes this kind of status, should a person comment to stand up for somebody else or just ignore it? I stood up because it hurt my feelings to have this person hurt.


Also, along with this topic, when you give you comment/opinion other people jump in and instantly start cussing, threatening, and telling you to back off. You used CAPS LOCK on me? YOU DID NOT USE THE CAPS LOCK BUTTON ON ME! I SEE YOUR CAPS LOCK AND RAISE YOU SOMETHING WITH GRAMMATICAL ERRORS. Really? Should I be afraid of caps lock? Its not that threatening!! Can a person argue or disagree without cussing, name callling and threats? Or is it that the parents of our generation so lazy and trying so hard to be their child's friend that they allow their kids to disrespect others and act all wild. Once you have a child shouldn't you grow up? Stop the threats, stop the name calling. Well thats all I have for tonight. Comments thoughts?

Army stereo types

I am an army wife. We have lived in 3 different states since 2006. We have been through 2 deployments(he is now on his 3rd) since 2006. We have 3 beautiful children. I always hear something negative about army wives. Its not about 1 or 2 or 5 its about all army wives, or military spouses in general. We cheat, spend all the money, don't take care of anything or anyone but ourselves. I'm here to vouch for myself and the spouses I do know. We don't blow the money, yes I like to buy things to decorate the house with, new clothes for the kids if they need them(but I still shop at goodwill), new toys if they behave. I don't cheat. I love my husband dearly. We have one of the best relationships out there. I take care of my kids. I love my kids. They are my life and my rock during deployments. Now, there are military spouses that do cheat, spend, and ignore everyone. But there are spouses that are married to civilians and do those things. But us spouses get the negativity because for 1 our spouses are deployed, and for 2 because most military spouses are that way. But not all.

The other thing I want to touch base on is kids. Our kids. Now I know single moms take care of kids all by themselves. And I applaud them, but they live next to family. Or close to family. My family lives far away from me. I have to call 2 weeks ahead to schedule for my kids to be in daycare if I have a doctor's appt, or a dentist appt. If I don't get them in daycare I must reschedule and try again. I can't just call my family and say hey I need you to watch the kids please. I also am worrying about my husband being in a war zone. So ontop of my concerns and medical problems(if any) or the kids health, I am also thinking will my husband call me? Will he get online? If he doesn't, is he safe, alive, what?

So please next time, think before you judge. Oh and the other thing, the worst comment you can ever say to a spouse is MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER SHOULD JOIN THE MILITARY BECAUSE THEY ARE NEVER HOME ANYWAYS. That comment should be banned from all of America. I want to slap someone everytime I hear that. So, ask yourself the next time you want to say that comment, DO I WANT TO BE BITCH SLAPPED ALL OVER TOWN? Yea I said it. So what?! That is my whiny bit for today!!

First Night

My first post...Hmm...I thought of a bunch of different topics I wanted to start off with. Talk about my life, talk about drama going on, or whats on the news. But, I don't watch the news. Don't like to watch it when my husband is deployed, I am so sick of talking about drama. HE IS THE BABY DADDY. OH NO YOU DIDN'T. I mean really it all gets tired after a while. And I LOVE LOVE LOVE to talk about myself, but after a while I get tired of hearing about myself since I am living my life. So, I think I will start off with whoever posts first. And go from there. I think tomorrow night's blog will be  one of the above topics, but tonight I want readers thoughts. So.... WHAT DO YOU WANT TO WHINE ABOUT?